It’s not your job to change or fix her Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing.
And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.6. For your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad.
Any advice would be wonderful- thanks in advance for your response!
I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.
You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.
Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.
You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed.