“Berlin is like Whereas women tend to become more committal as they grow up, men, with no need to stick to a biological schedule, run in the other direction. We had dinner and he invited me to a party afterwards. American artist Sam has a rule of thumb: “The ideal is half your age plus seven.” He’s now 40 and will not date a girl past 30.
“In my experience, guys in their twenties are so much more romantic. I told him I was tired and it was a weekday, but I was ready to meet again. A couple of hours later, I’m in bed and I get an SMS: ‘Funk funk funk. “I can make a slight exception – but 35 would be stretching it.” Basically, having a girl your age means you’re desperate.” He’s also picky in terms of looks: women must be thin, fit, have great teeth...
He describes his current love life as a series of “confusing affairs”.
Wrong time, wrong place Male or female, it might all come down to the fact that there’s no better place to live a comfortable and unencumbered single life well into your forties than Berlin. ” In addition, cheaper rents make the lone-wolf lifestyle infinitely easier in Berlin than in other European capitals.
And meeting your parents is just too much of a drag. ” Silke, a tall, beautiful 38-year-old Berliner architect, says she decided to leave her infatuation for creative types behind. “For most of them, a relationship is too much work.
“You know, the cool guys, charming but no real job, no ambition really. Many men prefer to just rub one out before they go out, to take off the edge so they don’t do anything stupid like fall in love.” “It’s like a candy store, or better – a buffet,” says Alice, 36, a cheeky, smiling freelancer from Scotland who, although she says she could write volumes on her decade-long experience of dating in Berlin, still sleeps alone in her king-sized bed.
If that person isn’t available when you are, move on.
That is one great thing about Berlin; there are thousands of opportunities.
Of course after a while you just get a little tired and a little confused,” says Charlotte, a 34-year-old from Belgium who lives in Prenzlauer Berg and works for a startup.
Living with someone ends up being more of a liability – an infringement on your great, free lifestyle.” Jeremy, 41, is a good-looking American with an academic background and an attractive social life – the type that doesn’t leave girls indifferent. As men grow picky, Berlin’s independent, career-oriented thirtysomethings lose their patience, refusing to waste time with losers who think they’re ‘the one’, but aren’t sure.
Yet, surprisingly, Jeremy has never had a proper relationship. “I’m so busy all the time these days,” says Inge, 32, an office administrator fresh from a go-nowhere fling with a co-worker.
“After that ended, I decided I don’t have time for anything silly.” Forget about that dream dude Are Berlin women digging their own, solitary graves?
Some say if you can’t hook ‘em, join ‘em: “I’m not obsessed with looking or finding anymore,” says Silvia. And maybe after all, that monogamous relationship thing is not the way to go.