Hence, the need for them to capitalize on their young age, looks, and fertility to get the kind of man that they want.
For religious, academic or educational, as well as career or occupational reasons some young women dedicate less time to socializing and searching for that “decent man.” By the time they realize the need to have families, age had already caught up with them; and as looks or beauty and fertility commonly decrease with age, they end up in a position where attracting men becomes a bit more difficult.
As one Ghanaian respondent mentioned: ‘There is this guy who loves me so much ….
I love him too, but I know my parents will be gutted and disappointed in me if I tell them that he is from … I’m just scared.’ Spending Prime years pursuing educational and Career goals: It might sound quite harsh, but one revelation made is that the best moment for most women to get suitable partners or husbands is when they are in their Prime.
It has in fact become an abomination in many African countries for people from certain “rival” tribes to get married.
Sadly, beautiful young women are missing the opportunity to get married to men they love, all in the name of tradition or tribal hatred.
Important Statistics 92(approximately 61%) out of the 150 respondents described themselves as single or unattached; 31 (representing 21%)were in serious relationships, and only 27 (forming 18%) were married.
The Reasons so Many African Women Abroad are Single.
Perceived shortage of decent men in the West: Almost all the women interviewed shared the opinion that it is quite uncommon to come across single men with good character these days.
Consequently, they ignore those who are genuinely in love with them but are not very financially sound or do not have strong legal status.
In the end, they are taken for a ride by the so-called wealthy dudes and men with legal documents, and thus return to what Nigerians call “square one” (where they were before – singleness).