When it comes to dating, we all know what a struggle it is to find that perfect partner. You have all the necessary equipments to take you through the dating stage.All the check boxes are ticked, except for one – he is a divorcee.That means 99% of people who date divorced men never make it to the finish line and here’s why. That means, no matter how pretty, smart, intelligent and perfect you are, his children will always be first in his life, especially if they are under 18 years old.You will constantly battle to be the pride and centre of his universe.Don't Be Their Friend Just as with any old parent-child relationship, it's a bad idea to try to be "friends" with your significant other's child.It's easy to want to impress them and be that cool, new person in their life, but they need the structure, seriousness, and guidance that only adults can provide. (Even when it totally doesn't feel like it.) Lay the Smack Down Early My boyfriend was a supreme joker, so it came naturally that his child was, too. I was afraid of p*ssing off my boyfriend, but he was fine with it. The boy was a little pins-and-needles with me for a few hours afterward, but he soon got over it and life went back to normal. Don't try this move too soon, but don't wait too long, either. It's one thing to have your boyfriend pee with the door open, but it's another thing when you're sitting on the couch and realize you can hear his kid peeing down the hall.
Keep Your Own Life and Rules You'll need to find out the "rules" from the parent. The boyfriend might be oblivious to it, too, because he's too busy watching the football game. We shared inside jokes, teased each other ruthlessly, and I think deep down inside he loved me just as much as I loved him.Most people who date a divorced man ALWAYS ignore the basic facts and think that just because you've “fallen in love” everything will be all sunshine and rainbows.The truth is dating a divorced man is not a picnic.Worse off, if you don’t get along with the kids, you will feel neglected, unloved, you will begin to slowly resent him for always putting his children first.Even if you do get along with the kids, the kids will always circle your relationship.