Maybe you’re thinking, ‘Hey, it’s OK; he only has them every other weekend, so basically I can forget his ex exists.’ I want to hug you and pat your head.The ex will always be a part of your new love’s life, and their kids.’ You’ll always hear about them, the kids will talk about them, the kids may even look like the ex you so desperately want to forget ever existed.Some people assume that if they are dating a single parent they are expected to take on a parenting role themselves. Concentrate your efforts on developing a good, solid relationship with your date and as time goes on talk to them about the role they would like you to have in their children’s lives.When you meet your date’s children they may not like you, or you them.Perhaps you’ve got a demanding job/yoga schedule/pet and maybe your childfree adventures allow you to keep busy—you’re golden.
Remember you are the grown up and they are the kids – talk to your date if you don’t know how to be with them.
You have a lot in common with this person, they’re witty and entertaining, they’re sexy AF and you have a sneaking suspicion the sex is gonna be good. You know they have kids, but even though you aren’t really a kid person, nothing’s going to harsh your buzz when you’re drugged up on their awesomeness. Once upon a time, I began to date a man with two children.
He’s a great guy and such a good fit for me in many ways. I don’t want kids of my own, yet here I am, co-parenting at his side like a pro.
We make a beautiful family, and we love each other. Because while dating someone with kids can be amazing in so many ways, don’t ever think it’ll be easy. You wanted to get away for the weekend but you forgot it’s over Mother’s Day because, newsflash, you’re not a mom?
But don’t be misled: this is the most challenging thing I have ever done. You should know a few things before you flail carelessly into infatuation like that basejumper guy in the squirrel suit with that awesome song. A parent’s responsibility is to their kids first, always, and that will never change. Be aware your plans will always need to be flexible.