For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.
The alternative that often happens is meeting someone through friends, which can work, but it’s limiting yourself to single people your closest friends and family happen to know.
As for the current online dating options—they strike me as a good first crack at this by humanity, but the kind of thing we’ll significantly improve on to the point where the way it was done in 2014 will seem highly outdated in not too many years.
Now that the stigma has diminished, you know this industry is going to race ahead because there’s so much money to be made by whoever can be innovative.
Everyone has a childhood memory that really makes them smile and happy.
By getting to know her memory, you will be able to know exactly what part of her life was the most special.
I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.
By knowing who her best friend is, you will be able to make a good first impression and will be able to ask more questions about them. If she tells you one thing she could undo that she did in the past, this will bring the two of you closer together.
Perhaps the both of you have had the same experience and this will bring you closer together. This is something that will get her to open up to you and let down her guard.
This is a great way to make her feel just a little more comfortable with you.
But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?
Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?