A couple of weeks ago I received an email from my daughter’s school, addressed to the parents of all Year 5 students.The email was entitled ‘A Sensitive Matter’, and though the subject line was cryptic, I knew exactly what it referred to.How would they deal with being rejected, with ending relationships, or with having to hurt another person's feelings?I thought very carefully about the issue, and initially, I sided with the school.During Monday night's episode, the relationship experts sent the showbiz lineup to sensory speed dating, which was bursting with drama, with things getting heated between Charlotte and Frankie as they both found new love interested.The fiery redhead managed to get two of her sensory speed-daters topless — much to the frustration of Frankie.And it wasn’t on bullying, as they’ve covered that many times. This doesn’t mean actually going anywhere; at 10 and 11 years old, these kids are too young to go to the movies alone, let alone go out to dinner.It meant being boyfriend and girlfriend, a couple, what we used to call ‘going round together’ back in the for goodness sake.
It's important to support each other's interests -- even and maybe especially when they aren't shared. While committing to another being is a great thing, giving up your needs and feelings up for that person isn't.
You genuinely like striving to be the perfect partner. But while you're submerging yourself in the life of this other person, you may not be making your own the priority it should be.
How do you find the balance between giving to your partner and holding onto yourself in the process?
Best at this stage, she said, to just be each others' friends. The school was concerned, it said, about the kids being sexualised too young.
The school was concerned about the kids feeling pressured into relationships that were too mature for their stage of life.