When I first started using the internet, I used to get a lot of men pushing me to use certain messengers.
I learned, very quickly, not to accept their chats, or use the messengers they wanted me to use because a lot of them just want to cam flash me their junk. Don't let any man dictate how you communicate with him...comminicate the way that makes you the most comfortable. You preferred POF email and refused to use an online chat program than millions of people use.
If you were really interested in someone would you insist on a form of communication that makes the person you are interested in uncomfortable?
Why even waste all that time talking about how to get to know each other instead of actually getting to know each by simply responding to my initiation?
Bottom line...always respect her concern over her safety, etc.
The worse that can happen to us guys is we end up with the date from Hell..least it makes a good story.
This means communicating on her terms and meeting at a time and place of her liking.
If someone does not want to use messenger or phone or skype then I start to think that there is something screwy with them as to why they they are reluctant to communicate in real time.In contrast, a woman can end up with some weird stalker, pervert or predator of some type. I was very disappointed but I said no thanks immediately.Unfortunately, 15-20 years ago I would have either bargained or given in.Also as for scammers using incorrect grammar, YES big red flag.I always take the time to find out where the person is from before jumping to the conclusion that they're a scammer.