By the time you broke your silence, things had evolved to an almost impossible situation.
Your church leaders tried, but had no success in righting the wrong behavior of your spouse.
However, I’ve witnessed case after case in which those marriages were saved, sometimes even after the divorce took place.At the same time, do not cling, beg, whine, plead, or manipulate.It makes you less attractive and intensifies whatever justification he or she has mentally made that allows leaving you. Make it clear that while you would like to save the marriage, your life will go on and you will prosper if they don’t come back. When a person believes that you are there no matter what they do, they have no compulsion to do right. Other people in your life who care about you will still care about you. And, believe it or not, it often helps bring the spouse back, though you cannot do it for only that reason.If you decide to try to save your marriage, immediately stop allowing your spouse to manipulate you in any way. Slow things down and drag things out even if it makes them angry.Time is on your side, especially if you continually pray for God to intercede and bring trials and tribulations into the sinful relationship.