It takes a courageous young man or an arrogant one to go through the interview for a date with our daughter. If you begin talking about interviewing her dates before your daughter begins adolescence, this should not become an issue when you actually begin doing it later on.
That’s why you need to be involved—because others parents aren’t! This will require some extended conversation between Mom and Dad. What about dating—are you going to let your kids date or not? As Ashley and then Benjamin and Samuel began adolescence, we looked more closely at this issue and over the years developed some family guidelines for the following: When a child can date, whom they should date, acceptable kinds of dates, telephone use, Internet communications, and so on. We (especially dads) need to interview our daughters’ dates.
Too many teenagers are being permanently scarred by the dating game.
We think it’s time for parents to take a long, hard look at teenagers and dating, and to develop a fresh approach, prayerfully determine limits, and train your child to hold fast to the boundaries that you set.
What we have is a youth culture with far too many liberties and not nearly enough parental involvement and boundaries. A number of years ago, our friend Jerry Wunder shared with us the benefits of interviewing our daughters’ dates.
We’ve been doing it ever since and found the benefits to be enormous.